Do you find some people drain the damn life out of you? Are you overwhelmed by friends/ family who seem extra negative? Well.. ME TOO! Its a very common thing… so let’s talk about protecting your energy cloud.
What is an energy cloud? Basically, this is your mood, your vibration, how you feel etc…. I really feel there is not enough info on this so here we go… lets discuss
Many of us spend much of our lives allowing ourselves to get swept away by other people’s ENERGY. One of the only positives to the 2020 drama, is that many of us are more in touch with our true authentic self. It’s easy to forget that you are pure source energy …everything in our world is ENERGY – this has been proven by science.
When I was younger I never realized it was even possible to truly stay in control of your own energy. I lived in reaction survival mode, constantly.
For those of us who are sensitive or empathic, it’s so easy to soak up the world around us, leaving us drained and exhausted. If we want to give the best of ourselves to the world, we need to love ourselves enough to take ownership over our energy.
After all, if we don’t own our own energy, others will.
Protect Your Energy – But with Compassion
Learning to stay in control of your own energy is not easy, it definitely takes work and daily reminders. And while boundaries are needed for certain energies, like those who are unkind or constantly negative, most of the time we just need to learn how to not get swept away into the current of others.
Truthfully though, I have a pet peeve with spiritual leaders who love to boast about how they avoid people who “bring their energy down.” Because quite frankly, life is hard and people are struggling. We should all have a little more compassion, and a little less judgment, for people who “bring our energy down.”
When we practice staying in control of and cleansing our own energy, we don’t need to judge people in this way. We don’t need to pretend that we are beaming with joy every second of the day and will only interact with others who are beaming just as brightly. There is light and dark in everything, black and white, we live in a universe of duality.
Because there are times when we will beam and brighten someone’s day, and there are times when we’ll be sad and not our best selves and need a little compassion too.
So I give you these tips for protecting your energy not so you can feel superior to others whose energies aren’t up to snuff, but so you can compassionately interact with the world from a grounded and calm place.
I hope these tips help you to stay true to yourself as you navigate this emotionally complex world.
1. Don’t Be So Agreeable
If you’re with someone who loves to complain, insult others and speak negatively constantly, don’t join them in it just to be agreeable or supportive.
Know who you are and what you want to put out to the world. Stay true to yourself and create boundaries with such people if you need to.
Chances are if you don’t join them in their negativity, they’ll look for someone else who will. Or better yet, you’ll help them to see there’s a better way.
Intention: I will not join someone in their negativity just to be agreeable. I will show them a different way.
2. Create a Visual
Visuals can be so powerful in reminding you of your boundaries and control.
You could picture yourself surrounded by a softly colored bubble, a bright light or even an article of clothing, something that clearly creates a protective border between you and the energies around you.
Intention: I am protected by the visual I created. I am neither impacted nor in judgement of someone else’s energy.
3. Use a Mantra
When someone’s energy is particularly overwhelming, it helps to repeat an empowering mantra in your mind.
When I’m feeling vulnerable to someone’s negative energy, whether it’s from a colleague or troll online, I repeat to myself, over and over:
“Their energy is not mine.”
It’s so simple but so effective. Creating this intention allows me to stay calm and loving and maintain my ability to help someone through their struggle without sacrificing my sanity.
Create a mantra that helps you to feel protected and safe, no matter who you’re with or what emotional state they’re in.
Intention: I will use my mantra to remain in control of my energy and respond to others from a place of peaceful power.
4. Create a Home Sanctuary
A friend came over to my apartment recently and her first comment as she walked inside was how relaxed she suddenly felt, just by being there. She joked that my home feels like a spa.
I told her I created that on purpose – I need it to feel that way so my highly sensitive energy can heal from the chaos of the outside world.
Bring nature indoors, play relaxing music, keep the lights dim, declutter constantly. There are so many ways to create a home environment that both heals and restores your energy. I also like to keep crystals around for healing energy purposes – I have so many but you may find rose quartz especially helpful.
Intention: My home is my sanctuary. No matter what happens in the world, my home will provide me with peace and restoration.
5. Trust in Yourself
When we don’t trust or believe in ourselves enough, our energy is for anyone’s taking.
If they want us to be high, we’ll be high, because then they’ll like us more. If they want to attack us with negativity, we’ll attack back, because our insecurities make us defensive and reactive. If they want us to gossip, we’ll do it, because that will forge a deeper bond.
Relationships that require you to act like someone you’re not and take on energies that aren’t yours are not stable, and they’ll eventually end. Honor who you are and you won’t give away your energy to others so haphazardly. Be true to your authentic self.
Intention: I trust in who I am and honor my energy, I will not sacrifice it to please others.
6. Trust in Others
If you have the tendency to want to fix or heal others (like me) it’s so easy to try and take on their suffering for them. You want to make things better for them, take away their burdens.
While there’s so much beauty and kindness in this, it’s not a reliable solution. Taking on the pain of others won’t necessarily fix things for them. And if you do this too often, your own energy and strength will suffer.
Instead, we can often better help those we love by remaining in control of our own energy as we support them in finding the solutions they need for themselves.
Intention: I will empower others by supporting them and trusting in them as they navigate troubled times.
7. React Less
When we quickly react to other people’s energies, whether positive or negative, we’re less stable in our own energy. It really takes an awful lot to rile me to be honest – my energy is very centered and strong. In other words… for the most part .. I just don’t give a S**t! I don’t let negativity ruffle my feathers.
Practice pausing before reacting. Check in with yourself to see how you can best respond in any situation. Let your best self step forward, not your ego. By pausing and responding mindfully you’re less likely to allow someone’s negativity to pierce you and drag you down.
Stay in control of your energy and you’ll be far less reactive to the world around you.
Intention: I will always pause before reacting so I can respond mindfully to whatever the world throws at me.
8. Get Busy
If you know you get impacted easily by the energies of the world around you, honor yourself enough to set strong limits.
Don’t say yes to more than you can handle. Just because you have a night or weekend free does not mean that you are actually free. Just because someone is persistently asking something of you, doesn’t mean you have to give in to it. Protect your energy and learn to say NO when you feel stretched. You do not owe anyone your time – don’t feel pressured by the burdens of others.
Because you are busy. Busy healing, restoring, contemplating and spending much need time alone. So say no before committing to more than you can handle. No explanations necessary, you are simply busy at that time – and that is the truth.
Intention: I have the right to stay busy with the work of healing and restoring my energy.
9. Understand Your Own Negativity
It can be hard to admit but the negativity we dislike in others exists within ourselves as well. When we close our eyes to this, we’re not able to be fully aware of and in control of our own energy – nobody is perfect, we all have our issues.
When people boast about how they won’t hang around people who bring their energy down, they’re helping to spread further negativity. They’re essentially saying:
“I’m better than that person. I am worthy, but they are not.”
This mentality comes from a place of ego instead of a place of oneness. We are all one on this planet and while we have to protect ourselves from energies that hurt us, we must also be mindful of how our words and intentions can hurt others, further bringing down the vibration of the world around us.
Intention: I will protect my energy while also compassionately releasing all judgements of others.
10. Ground Yourself In Nature
We all lose ourselves from time to time. Someone’s negativity gets the best of us and we get swept along into their current.
For deep healing and to find yourself again, ground yourself in nature. Take a walk through the park or in the woods if you can. Grounding is the practice of connecting to the Earth’s electromagnetic frequency – simply walking barefoot or touching trees and plant life outside will instantly connect you ( no shoes – the rubber soles block the energy)
Intention: No matter how lost I got in someone’s negativity, I can use the restorative qualities of nature to heal and reset.
11. Quickly Cleanse
If you’re with someone whose negativity is impacting you, there’s a tendency to clam up and take quick shallow breaths.
Doing so just exasperates that person’s impact on you, allowing their negativity to seep deeper into your core. Instead, pause and take several slow and deep cleansing breaths. Let your breath remind you of the power you hold over your domain.
Close your eyes and breathe in calm, peace and light and breathe out pain, toxicity and darkness. Your breath is your simplest but greatest power.
Intention: My breath alone can heal me.
12. Don’t Give Permission
No one can affect you without your permission. If someone’s energy will be harmful to you, don’t grant them that permission.
Recognize this power within yourself. Own it.
You are no one’s emotional puppet. You are strong and intuitive and empathetic. And that can leave you open to other people’s energies, but only if you allow it.
So whenever you need to, tell yourself that you simply will not allow it.
Intention: My energy is mine and the energy of others penetrates me only when I allow it.
The more conscientious, sensitive and empathic you are, the easier it is for you to get swept away by the energies of others.
But you can protect your energy. All it takes is practice and intention and a belief that your well-being and mental health are worth it. Choose to believe.